RU Field Notes at 5 months; 2

I've gotten a worried call from my dad about Granville's schedule. His nocturnal schedule was described above in post 1. The kids were with my parents 2 days then went to their Dad's.
My Dad said, "I am worried about G. All he does is watch TV." I told him what G said he is really doing (see post 1). He protested, "No, he just looks like he is only watching." So I reassured him that G could never have said the things he said if he were not in the process of real interior exploration. I pointed out that in my opinion plenty of adults have never done the work G said he's doing! Books are written to help folks do it...G is starting to figure it out at age 13. I am starting to know for sure that that's worth more than all the 'education' there is.
We will spend 4 weeks with my parents, who generally remind me of how I used to be about homeschooling/unschooling. They truly mean well, but their fears make them push the kids. It used to be bad and for awhile I limited their access to the kids but they have caught on. I used to allow their fears to rub off on me, but I am trying to center myself, to let things like the above interchange remind me how wrong it is to do that to the kids and our family.
I have never been able to get my parents to read unschooling literature. This time I will take the book Homeschooling Our Children, Unschooling Ourselves. My parents are retired teachers (my Dad taught art at a local university and my mom taught kindergarten). They have had a real struggle with the perception that I have negated and rejected what they chose as a career. As I say, they have come a long way. I hope they may consider reading a bit.
I am so glad to be soon rejoining the kids. I hope to have some posts telling about our adventures in North Carolina.
Anybody have any comments on how to help my parents see what I see in the kids' lives? I have realized that my habitual intense, attentive listening, although usually good, makes people think that I am open to redirection! Ha, ha...not this time. But I also believe that 'forceful communication' is nearly an oxymorn, so I don't do that unless I have to swoop in and save a child, which I don't have to do much anymore.
Thanks for reading!